May 22, 2012 (… one year)
My dear little Will,
One year ago today and it feels like minutes and forever all at once. Flashbacks, tears, trembling, it all comes back to these moments and the impact of the two little words… “I’m sorry”. Those two words reverberate over and over in my head. The two words every
mom and dad and brother never, ever want to hear, nor should they. The natural order of things is that it just should never happen this way; you Will, the youngest were supposed to outlive us all. If only that were true. As soon as those words left the mouth of the paramedic, there were unfamiliar sounds that came from deep within me, guttural really, and then panic, shock, disbelief and tears that I would not, could not stop and still cannot a year later. At that moment, all of those emotions hung in the air while I realized that the world as I knew it only moments before was forever changed and forever gone. I immediately began to miss you more than anything. All the hope that I was clinging to while the two teams of EMS workers and the STARS ambulance doctors worked on you were replaced by sadness, devastation, emptiness, and a pain deep within my very being; feelings that I cannot even fully describe. Oh Willy, when I heard the STARS helicopter in the distance, it’s whir coming closer and closer until it was above us and then landed, I thought, “OK. Now it’ll be good. STARS is here now. They’ll take you and dad and me to the Children’s Hospital and it’ll all be good.” Oh, my dear little boy, I cannot describe how that hope turned to the worst feelings of sadness that I could ever imagine and then questions and numbness. Unbelievable numbness. And a hole in my heart that I suddenly realized was never going to mend. Losing you meant a part of me was lost too. My life here will never be the same without you. My heart still so broken. The pain still so real. I love you, Willy, more than one could ever imagine, more than a million buses.
Help me get through this, little blue. Keep watching over me and Dad and your brothers. Send us signs and smiles, and know that we will never forget you. Always remember this, Will; you are forever a part of us and never alone. We love you and we miss you; from the bottom of our hearts and to the very tips of our toes and then like a bus.
This was a tough one…. Tears are running freely. I may read another at another time. So true of the emotions that happen. Thanks for sharing. Same emotions so raw in the beginning and then for a long time. Faith, Love and Time… XOX
Oh Carol. Life (as you know)so full of bittersweets when you lose a child. It is only through tears that the heart can smile. A quote we got from The Children’s Hospital says it so beautifully; “it takes both the rain and the sun to make a rainbow”. Oh so true. YOU give me hope, Carol. Xo