Friday, March 21, 2014
On the eve of another “22nd day” of another month, of course you continue to be in my thoughts and like everyday I wish more than anything that you were here. Tomorrow afternoon is an important day for your big brother, as he will receive his iron ring in a ceremony where engineering students in their final year of university take part in what is known as The Ritual of the Calling of an Engineer. It’s been almost five years since Justin began his university studies towards his dream of obtaining a degree in mechanical engineering and almost three of them have been without you here. You’d have been blown away, Will, by looking at the mind-boggling formulas and complexity of the assignments that he completed on a regular basis. I couldn’t make sense of any of them and wasn’t ever sure if I was even looking at them right side up. Justin would have been the best math tutor you could ever have and I wish I could have been witness to the two of you sitting at the kitchen table while he was helping you work through a math problem. As his little brother, you’d have enjoyed it and Justin would have too.
I imagined that this afternoon after school you and I would have driven to the city on a mission to find something nice for you to wear tomorrow. I wonder how tall you would be now and what size pants and shirt we’d have to buy? And would you still be trying to convince me that your Vans would be ok with your pants and that no one would be looking at your shoes anyway? I noticed myself pause and reflect as I typed that sentence, my head nodding up and down like you really did have a point. Oh, what I’d have given to be in the stores with you this afternoon doing what I wish we’d have had a chance to do.
Come tomorrow morning I already know that my heart will be heavier than usual; that it’ll ache a little more because you won’t physically be with us on this special day. Of course you’ll be with us in spirit; that I know with all my heart. You’ll be sitting proudly on my left shoulder where all the boy angels sit and you’ll be inside my heart where you always are. I already know that I will reach up and touch my left shoulder and that one or both of my hands will cup the heart necklace that is you. I don’t even know how many times I find myself holding that heart pendant in my hands. It happens frequently everyday. As Dad and I and Ben proudly watch Justin tomorrow afternoon we know you’ll be there too… in the middle, of course, where you loved to be.
Oh Willy. I will never understand why this tragedy happened to us. I will forever feel so robbed of watching you live your dreams and of enjoying the life you so deserved here with us. You, our youngest son and little brother to Justin and Ben will always be a part of our lives. That will never ever change, but oh what I would do to be able to see you, to touch you, to hug you.
I love you, little blue. Bigger than a bus. And more than the sky. I’ll be waiting and watching for the little wink I know you’ll send our way tomorrow while we watch Justin realize his dream of becoming an engineer and receive his much deserved iron ring.